We begin our lives with a single breath and cry, without knowledge, fear or expectations.  The expectations come from our parents, of a better life then they had and a strong pursuit to become a great human being.

As children grow, they learn from their parents the tools of how to be; a person, a friend, to love and to hate, how to be a lover, and how to walk away gracefully.

Now, as I raise my children, can I say that I will teach them perfectly one hundred percent; no, I know that I am not perfect.  No one is, and I don’t expect this of my children.  I do expect them to always be their best, give their best, and to never want less of themselves.

I write about this today because there have been a few comments that I might not be teaching my children to be their best while being separated from my husband.  The readers that have posted are certainly entitled to their opinion and for that I am grateful.

I am grateful that we live in a country where everyone can speak their mind and a parent can be belittled because she feels that she is doing the right thing for her children.  My children are still being raised in a family, with a father and mother, just because we do not share a residence together, certainly does not mean that our children will be raised any different.

I am not teaching my children that marriage is a game and I am not teaching them that divorce is OK.  I am teaching my children that their parents still love each other very much and that is why we have taken this time. 

I want my children to understand that marriage is work that it is never easy and they must be responsible for their choices made.  I hope they will learn this from the choice their father and I have made to work on our marriage but allow each other the time that is needed.

I don’t know what is in store for our futures.  I think in all of us we sometimes want to know, but then we don’t.  We want to be surprised by the pursuit of the unknown.  I do know that I am raising my children to be great individuals and wonderful human beings.  A parents separation or divorce does not make you who you the person that you are.

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