Down Time

Yep! I took some down-time for myself these past weeks to re-charge my body, re-think my strategy, and re-fresh my life. Time is something we all need to give ourselves, especially if you are running thin - way thin! I was stretching out everything in my life - time, work, family, and support.  I knew it was time and took it.

My bggest fear now is getting back into the stream of it all again. It’s not bad. Fear keeps me on my toes. Keeps me alert and focused on what needs to be done. I don’t want to get comfortable again because then I get lost and everything in my stream becomes out of focus and floats off into wonderland. Right here is where I need everything to be, so being a bit afraid will help me stay on track.

I’ve met some great people that have become wonderful friends and their focus within their own life has become a driving positive force for me. They can do it. So can I. Aligning myself with these great positive women has definitely been the support system that I needed and it would be a shame for me to not share them here with you all.

Goal for the next week, I plan to write posts about these wonderful women that have become a part of my life and I am truly blessed and definitely more of a human being for just knowing them. 

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Her Sport is Not Basketball

Miss K… hmm… what can I say, she struggles every practice and at every game, but she loves to do it. Basketball is just not her sport. Now, it is her first year playing organized basketball, just not the family driveway basketball we normally play, so I completely understand she is still learning, but I have seen the other first-time players progressively getting better with each practice and game, not my Miss K.

She stands and twirls and skips down the court, yes it can be very cute, just never very basketball-like. Thankfully her coach is only worried about one thing - dribbling. Well, honestly, her dribbling would be a lot better if she would stop skipping. That darn skipping gets her every time.

I believe with Miss K, she goes more for the friendship and seeing the other girls then she does to actually play the sport. You know what, that is completely fine. I will continue to fire up the shiny red ride to continue driving her to every practice and game as long as she wants because I believe the camaraderie is just as important as the sport. Hopefully though, one day basketball will click for her.

The only other organized anything she has tried is Ballet and she really liked it when they got to do “ballet” moves - basically she hated learning the techniques - first position, second position, and so on. I supported her and explained that you had to learn the techniques in order to put it all together. After two years, I gave her the choice to continue and she clearly told me “No.” Well, last month she asked, “Mom, when do I go to ballet again?” WHAT?

Kids can be so confusing. Anyway, I will wait patiently for the next sport she wants to tackle, whatever that may be. I will keep taxing her around to which ever sport is in-season for her, all with the hope that Miss K will find the click - the one that makes sense to her. If none do, I will still support her for at least trying.

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Screwed Over Friend

Me; not done by me.  I got screwed over by a friend less than a year ago, and you ask, “Why write about it now?”  Well, she doesn’t let go, to anyone!  She is like a blood-sucking tick that anchors their head into your skin and you have to pull away with tweezers!  Emails, IM’s, text messages - just go away!

We were great friends, met in the military; really someone that I had thought would be there forever for me.  Boy was I wrong!  Yea, I thought she had some issues and I told her how I felt on more than one occasion, but she always accepted my advice as a friendly thought and we would move on to the next disaster with her.

After I moved away to Arkansas, our letters got to be few and far between, but we always kept in touch regardless.  Within the past two years our letters and phone calls picked up.  She was going through a divorce, I was going through a separation; we were there for each other.  Then she started having ‘on-line flings’ and I could have cared less about who she was with, but when she started taking these relationships emotionally too far.  I stepped in.

Yes, she did find someone on-line and he was a great guy.  He cared for her and her kids.  They were together for almost two years, off and on, because she couldn’t keep her damn hands out of the on-line cookie jar.  Finally she burned us both. Cheating on him with the many guys she was meeting and she basically told me to f**k off because I told her she needed to get her head back into her life and her kids and not in the men she was meeting.

I have nothing against meeting new people.  I love meeting new people and enjoy finding out about them and their lives, but when it becomes an obsession, you should take a step back - she didn’t.  She cheated, forgot about her kids, and almost lost custody of them.  Well, I told her to wake up and I was told to f**k off.

Now, she is with another guy, because he pays the rent, bought her a car, takes care of her kids, pays her bills, and just gives her money to blow.  She is a user!  I want the best for her, I want her to have a good life with her kids, but I am glad she is not in my life anymore because she did nothing other than bring me down.  I will miss her, but not all the things she turned in to.  

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